As many of you know, I’ve just finished moving into my dream home, which we’ve been building for the last couple of years. As I was unpacking this past weekend, I came across this picture of me and Dan Kennedy at Disney World a couple years ago. We had such a fun time on this trip, which was a much-needed vacation for us both. If you don’t know who Dan is, he’s known as the ultra-successful Millionaire Maker and more importantly to me, my best friend. Looking at this picture made me think about how important it is for us to associate with quality people and reminded me of something I came across as I was doing research for my new book. It’s often contributed to Colin Powell, but it’s not completely clear who the author is. Regardless, the message is one worth sharing:
The Company You Keep
It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company. Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. “A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.” The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate – for the good and the bad.
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
- Never receive counsel from unproductive people.
- Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.
- Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.
- You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
- Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening; With others you invest it.
- Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.
- Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
Take a moment and evaluate who you’re spending your time with. Are there people in your life who you know you should associate with a little less? Others you should spend more time with? Choose friends who will strech your vision!
Create a Great Day!