This week, we’re going to continue with our series on asking questions, excerpted from the revised version of my book, Success is an Inside Job. Since July is the month we celebrate our Independence here in the US, I think it’s a great time to reflect on and show our gratitude for the freedoms we enjoy. I also think it’s a good time to evaluate the areas of our lives where we’d like to see a little more freedom, whether it’s financial, lifestyle, or otherwise.
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I hope you enjoy:
Your thoughts create your emotions and, inevitably, your emotions direct your actions. If your problem is that you often get depressed and frustrated in your current situation and lose motivation, remember this: you can deal more effectively with your emotions by asking yourself questions that will change your focus. What you focus on expands. When you focus on positives, you feel good; when you focus on negatives, you lose your power to act. If you make a mistake, don’t ridicule yourself with Why am I so stupid? Why not ask what you can change so the same problem won’t reoccur? Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and how you can apply that knowledge to your benefit in the future. Questions are an important component of emotional management. And the quality of your questions determines the quality of your life. The bottom line is this: the best resource you have for success is to consistently focus on questions that will allow you to tap into your brain’s resource bank to arrive at workable solutions. In truth, intelligent questions are the key to utilizing your power to create a happy, fulfilling life.
I also learned that it wasn’t just the questions I asked that were important, but the questions I failed to ask. For example, how would I respond if my particular choice didn’t work? What then? Did I have another option? When was the last time you asked yourself critical questions such as “Am I happy? Am I living my own authentic life? Is my life going in the direction I want? Am I using my natural talents and skills? Are my present circumstances serving me?” If you’re not asking these kinds of questions, how will you recognize that you need to make changes?
The questions you ask determine your focus in life. When we focus on what is negative – or what is not working – suddenly everything looks wrong, out-of-place, poorly timed. Our world seems out of synch. Here’s an important thought for you: what if, instead of finding faults, problems, difficulties or always wishing your life could be different, you changed your focus? What if you accepted life for exactly what it is today and began to look for the “positives” – the advantages – and how you could make those positives even better? Focus on your blessings! Look at it this way: you have 1,440 minutes in each day to experience your life as joyful or miserable – it’s your choice. Now is the time to create new ways to live successfully in your own unique way. And in order to do so, empowering questions are more important than ever.
Begin by tossing out your old perceptions of what success used to mean and creating new ones. You do this by asking yourself what you want. What are you doing to create success for your future? In truth, learning to adapt to radically changed circumstances gives us the opportunity to open new doors and create entirely new models for how to live now. In fact, this new reality is forcing us, out of necessity, to question what our inner feelings are telling us about what we want in the future. While in the past we may have simply accepted the definition of success handed down from generation to generation, it does not make sense in today’s fast paced and daily changing world. Sud¬denly, people who never questioned life or the direction in which they were going find themselves analyzing everything.
Questions allow you to focus your attention and life energy on your talents and resources. Next week, we’ll wrap up our series with a wonderful daily exercise you can do to improve the quality of the questions you ask. The outcome is sure to be a better life.
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