Life is a Journey Not a Destination

Life is a Journey Not a Destination

Today I want to talk about the journey of life!

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We spend so much time on our ambition that we often FORGET that Life is a Journey, Not a Destination.We forget this truth all the time, folks! Instead, we only focus on the destination in life while suffering through the journey part.Your time is your true currency and if you are wasting it suffering through your life trying to reach your goals, then what? More goals to work toward?

Let me ask you a few perspective altering questions:

Have you become a difficult task master to yourself?

Have you allowed business and making money to create security to overshadow having fun and enjoying your time right now?

When is it your turn to be happy and enjoy life?

When is it your turn to temporarily cut off the overwhelming ambition for creating stuff in the future by sacrificing today?

Today is the only day you have – SO BE IN THE PRESENT! Stop worrying about the future. If you do the right things today, the future will take care of itself.Please hear me when I say: Stop beating yourself up!Whether its about the mistakes of the past or any regrets you may have, the past is a locked door and you cannot turn back the face of time.You can, however, learn from the past and create a better future.

How about enjoying the time you have right now? Who knows when your expiration date is?Why not give yourself a break and give yourself permission to just enjoy life and not take yourself so seriously! How much we enjoy this journey depends on our attitudes about the journey.

This is Lee Milteer reminding you to stay in the present because life will pass you by if you do not participate in the journey!

Mindset Hacks for Summer Stress Relief

Mindset Hacks for Summer Stress Relief

Today we’re going to talk about Mindset Hacks for Summer Stress Relief and how to not let it affect you so much.  Here’s the truth – it’s summer, it’s hot and some people’s tempers flare at this time of year.  There may even be some jealousy creeping in that others have time off and we don’t and it doesn’t seem fair.  Life is moving along at faster pace than it ever has before.  THERE ARE REASONS WE HAVE STRESS!  It’s how we COPE with the stress and defuse it that matters most.

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Mind Hack #1: When you feel stress, start controlling your self-talk. Too much stress for too long leads to depression.  When you find yourself saying, “I’m so stressed out”, “This is so tiring”, “This is so exhausting”, “I cannot do this all”, “This is not fair” you’re going to get even MORE stressed out!

It’s time to change your self-talk. You need to start to realize that you’re not a victim.  You have volunteered for some of this stress, so UN-volunteer from some of it. Life doesn’t have to be perfect.  It never has been and never will be.

Some Declarations that are helpful are:

  • I am now calm and cool under all circumstances.
  • I am in control of my life; I now can let go and relax; I am in control of all my thoughts and actions;  I am very effective and efficient in stressful situations.
  • I love and honor myself; I have a positive attitude that I can handle myself in all situations.

Mind Hack #2: Remember that EXPECTATIONS ARE THE SOURCE OF ALL SUFFERING!  If you’ve planned an event, launched a new product or service, hired new staff – then you already know things don’t happen exactly the way you want them or expect them to.  That’s just part of life.  The key is to prepare yourself and expect that there will be hiccups, problems, and challenges every day and then your stress goes down because you know those things are going to happen.  That’s a REALISTIC point-of-view.

The key is to change your thinking to be solution-oriented when challenges arise.  Say to yourself, “We will FIND the SOLUTION!”

Mind/Body Hack #3: Another way to gain control over stress is to simply breathe deeply several times.  When your heart is beating too fast because of your anxious feelings, controlled breathing slows your heart and allows you to feel in control again.  Breathing is also an effective form of muscle relaxation.

Yoga and Meditation are fabulous remedies for a lot of stress.  They help you focus on your breathing.  This is a great thing because remember, your mind cannot focus on more than one thing at a time.  When you’re focused on your breath – you aren’t focusing on the chaos happening around you.  This allows you to start to relax.

Mind Hack #4: It’s super-important to love yourself enough to learn the SKILL OF AWARENESS about what stresses you out and what you can do about it.  One thing you can do is have self-imposed “pattern interrupts”.   When you’re stressed out is not the time to make decisions.  Take a few minutes to take a walk, listen to some relaxing music, play with your pet and kids for a few minutes. If you can’t do those then try to get to a place you can be alone. Imagine yourself in your favorite place or a quiet, peaceful location such as in a forest, on the top of a mountain or by the waterfront — a mental Shangri-la.  Not only is this an excellent Pattern interrupt but this type of imagery allows you to focus on something beautiful and emotionally rewarding.  The University of Delaware has done studies proving that imagining a quiet natural scene in your mind will significantly reduce your stress.

Mind Hack #5: to help you with becoming aware of what stresses you out try these:

What can I do today to get away from the world and just take care of myself?

What can I do to have a good day today in spite of reality?

What resources can I use today to get back to my normal positive thinking self?

What friends can I share my problems with that will be a support system?

What self-talk can I start to use now to change my state of mind?

What areas of my life have I allowed myself to be a victim?  What do I want to do differently in the future?

In what areas of my life do I demand that I be perfect?

In what areas of my life am I out of balance?

What activities am I trying to be all things to all people?

What parts of my life am I stuffing my feelings and not venting frustrations?

How can I not take myself so seriously?

One year from today, what will be funny about this situation or my behavior?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO TO SUPPORT MYSELF?

Mind Hack #5: Give yourself permission to have some positive personal rewards, to appreciate yourself such as: a massage; pampering yourself with a good meal (with dessert); a night out on the town; a hot bubble bath and a glass of champagne; playing Golf or tennis; phoning someone you love to give you a lift; a cleaning service to clean your home.  Anything that empowers you to feel like you are special!  Always keep in mind that bad days don’t last.  This too shall pass.  Empower yourself not to let your state of mind control you — you always control your emotions with your thoughts.

Personally, my staff and I have been working very hard on my upcoming launch for Vision Quest Virginia Beach that’s happening October 5 – 6, 2017 and we all have decided on personal rewards that we will allow ourselves to have once everything settles down.  We aren’t going allow ourselves to get so stressed out that our relationships are harmed, that we don’t take care of our bodies and get sick or that we lose touch with our community.  We’re all looking forward to our own positive personal reward.

Love yourself A LOT more folks! Don’t take life so seriously, no one here gets out alive!
Remember to PACE yourself and remember there’s always a solution to every challenge or problem you face.

Top 10 Hacks to Get You 100% RESPECT

Top 10 Hacks to Get You 100% RESPECT

Today I want to talk with you about how your earn R.E.S.P.E.C.T. in life.  These 10 hacks don’t require any particular talent but boy, do they create massive amounts of respect for you in this world.

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Being on Time. This actually means showing up 5 minutes EARLY.  Being early gives you time to get yourself put together and settled at your destination before your meeting.

Work Ethic. Make sure what you turn in and what you give to people is beautiful, correct, easy to read, easy to understand and that you’re doing what is necessary to impress people with your work ethic.

Show Effort. Dress up for the occasion. You all know that we make our first impression in the first 33 seconds of meeting someone. In that time, we decide how old you are, what you do for a living, and should I respect you?  So, you want to show effort in being on time, how you present yourself and your work ethic.

Positive Body Language. Create and maintain eye-contact with people. Show that you are really present with them in this moment. Make sure you are looking at them – not at your phone to show that you are not distracted by other things.  You want your body language to show that you care about them and what they are saying.  It’s very important not to slouch and act like you are bored.

Positive Energy & Passion. Make sure that what you say is positive.

Attitude (If there is a problem, there is a solution.) Your attitude determines whether you’re part of the problem or part of the solution. Don’t be a whiner or complainer. Be FOR things not always AGAINST them.

Being Coachable. Be willing to read books, listen to CDs & DVDs, and attend seminars and retreats to continue learning and growing as a person.  Show that you are really into growth and expanding yourself.

Doing extra. This is different for each person but it’s showing up and doing something a little extra, above-and-beyond what is expected.

Being prepared. Do Your Research.  I just had a new coaching client that a company sent over to me yesterday for an hour and a half appointment and she had no clue who I was or why she was sent to me! I would NEVER hire this person.  In fact, if anyone comes to me and doesn’t know anything about me because they didn’t go to milteer.com to find out who I am, I won’t hire them.They aren’t prepared. They know nothing about me and cannot tailor their presentation or discussion.
If you are going to meet important people, look them up on Google. Do some research on them and find something positive about them to talk about so that they know you’ve gone and done a little extra research.

Showing Gratitude & Appreciation. The reason I say that is because the world is so full of an entitlement mentality.  You know, the people that think they deserve everything with no effort or gratitude. It is such a good thing to show people appreciation and gratitude. Tell them that what they’ve done in your life is valued and appreciated.  Get out a card and handwrite a thank you note.  We receive so many texts and emails every day that they don’t hold as much value as writing a handwritten, mailed card does.

These 10 hacks can help you earn respect and people will want to do business with you.

Feel free to pass on this article to people that could use this information!

Until next time,

The Top 5 Reasons Why You Should Travel to Business Conferences

The Top 5 Reasons Why You Should Travel to Business Conferences

I just got back from Cleveland, Ohio where I attended a business event and I feel re-energized about my business, where it’s headed and WHY I love to do what I do.  I learned some things and made great connections while I was there. Today, I want to remind you why you should travel to business conferences.

When I go to events, not just the ones I speak at, but the ones I also go to learn – I make a conscious effort to connect with other people.  I see how others are handling the current challenges in the world.  I see how they are reinventing themselves.  I see how they are capitalizing on the opportunities in their lives to move to the next level of success.

We must schedule at least a few weeks a year where we get out of our everyday environments to help open up our minds to seeing different ways to do business, earn money, and create relationships and have more fun.

The Truth is: If you keep doing things the way you’ve always done them, you may NOT create new business! 

It is CRUCIAL that you schedule the time to go to retreats, seminars, and educational events so that you can get out and hobnob with other people, connecting with them in order to do long-term business.

Many of you have heard me refer to people that are not entrepreneurs or business owners as “civilians”.  This is because they do not understand what we do.  It’s important for you to go out and be around other non-civilians.  It is very healing to the entrepreneur’s soul and heart to be around other like-minded souls who do what you do, love what they do and are excited about it.  Their enthusiasm and their excitement will help you come home feeling fresh and excited with a set of new eyes on your business.  This allows you to upgrade your own procedures for greater success.

It’s important to connect with other people that are just like you.

So, just to recap – Here are the Five Reasons You Should Travel to Business Conferences:

  1. No matter how good internet training or online courses are—they will never inspire you like being in front of a really good teacher.  There is more than just spoken words going on.  We literally pick up information from other people on a subconscious level.
  2. Being in a real LIVE learning environment, where OTHERS ASK INTELLENT QUESTIONS, is so beneficial.Plus, the opportunity to learn from others in the hallways and masterminds can add to your level of understanding of the subjects being taught. You can also learn DISTINCTIONS and often times deeper knowledge that you can learn with just the teaching.
  3. You will get to hang out and socialize with people who, if you DON’T go to these events, you would never have the opportunity to meet, learn from, and maybe even do business with.There’s nothing like standing or sitting next to someone, shaking hands and having a conversation.  It’s not just an exchange of words, it’s an exchange of energy, thoughts, and ideas.
  4. Create new Networking relationships.  Meeting people who could be your client’s customers or patients or who you could sell your services or products to.
  5. Getting out of your own environment is good for you. You get to see the world more, meet new people, and experience a fresh perspective.

Remember: It’s often not WHAT you know but WHO you know!

Right now, it’s only June!  We still have 6 months left of 2017, so why don’t we make it the most profitable, exciting and fun by re-exciting ourselves by going somewhere else, exposing ourselves to a lot of new ideas, a lot of new people and not only come home with new business, but a lot of new ideas.

Excitement and enthusiasm are very, very important for everyone in business because it keeps you fresh with an ability to scan your life’s landscape and see new ideas, possibilities, and opportunities.

Until next week!

Magic, Love & Blessings,

Focus on Harnessing Your OWN Energy

Focus on Harnessing Your OWN Energy

Today I want to talk about something that is absolutely crucial for every human being on earth and that is to harness your own energy better than you have been doing up to this point.

Your daily habits literally determine how successful you are in your life.

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How you honor your own boundaries, end your own bad habits, and how you create success and profit in your life all determine the degree of success you have in life.

We all have Five Types of Energy – which are your life currency and they are mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and financial.  We each only have so much energy each and every day.  When we aim those energies towards fixing other people’s problems, when they haven’t asked for your help – we are depleting ourselves of the energies we need to have a successful life of our own.  It is out of integrity to help someone who hasn’t asked for your help!  If someone ASKS you for help – that’s a different story.  But, you have to ask yourself how much of your own limited energy are you using every single day to fix other people’s problems who aren’t grateful, don’t listen to your advice, don’t appreciate the information you are sharing with them and who merrily go on their own way ignoring your advice – which frustrates you.

New plan!   The best habit you can have every single day is to TRUST that most people have the ability to figure things out for themselves if you give them that opportunity.

So, if you have adult children and you’re fixing their problems every single day – you’re teaching them to come to YOU to fix their problems. If you have staff in your business that you are constantly fixing all of their problems – you aren’t giving them the chance to learn the skills.  When they learn these skills – that’s what builds true self-confidence.

Food for thought:  If people have problems and you take on their problems as your own because you think it’s just easier to fix their problems than focus on your own issues – Unless you are getting paid as a coach, you are out of integrity with yourself.   Your job in life is to have your own goal and aspirations in life and to use your life energies towards making those dreams happen.  When you take on other people’s issues as your own – you are wasting your life energy and end up depleted, with no energy left to work on your own growth.  Stop trying to fix everyone around you and focus on yourself.

Habit Busting Tip: I want you to break the habit of AUTOMATICALLY trying to fix everyone’s problems unless you’re getting paid as a life coach to do so.  What I want you to start doing is remain NEUTRAL.  When someone comes to you with a problem remain neutral and supportive. Just say to them, “I know you can figure this out.  I know you’ll find the right references and resources to help you figure this out.”  Let them be.  Let them learn to figure things out on their own.  It is not your job to fix everybody on earth.  It’s your job to fix YOURSELF!

On a regular basis, if I have staff come to me with an issue, I have them come to me with three solutions that they’ve taken the time to come up with on their own.  Sometimes those solutions work and sometimes they don’t, but that isn’t the point. The key is that they are learning to think and come up with their own solutions before coming to me.  They are learning to not rely on me to come up with solutions.  Your kids and friends need that from you, too!

So, your job is to enforce your boundaries, to create good habits of supporting people.  Tell them (if they ask) they are smart, offer books to read, suggest things to do to be productive in figuring out their challenges.  It is NOT your job to dig in, forget your own life, forget your own schedule, or forget your own boundaries and to get so emotionally involved in other people’s problems that you’re trying to fix them for them.  That is NOT YOUR JOB!  Unless you are a life coach and you’re getting paid – it is NOT YOUR JOB!

You were born to take care of YOURSELF.   Give yourself permission to truly focus your energy on achieving your goals, your dreams, and your aspirations.  I promise you, you will not only be more productive – you’ll feel so much happier in life when you give up the responsibility of being all things to all people.

Your job is to love and nurture your own life and to be an EXAMPLE to others.  You don’t have to fix their life for them – you can simply be an example.

Magic, Love & Light,

 

 

P.S.  I am holding my next Vision Quest in my hometown of Virginia Beach, Virginia October 5-6, 2017.
If you’re interested in finding out more – go to www.visionquestvabeach.com!