Top 10 Hacks to Get You 100% RESPECT

Top 10 Hacks to Get You 100% RESPECT

Today I want to talk with you about how your earn R.E.S.P.E.C.T. in life.  These 10 hacks don’t require any particular talent but boy, do they create massive amounts of respect for you in this world.

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Being on Time. This actually means showing up 5 minutes EARLY.  Being early gives you time to get yourself put together and settled at your destination before your meeting.

Work Ethic. Make sure what you turn in and what you give to people is beautiful, correct, easy to read, easy to understand and that you’re doing what is necessary to impress people with your work ethic.

Show Effort. Dress up for the occasion. You all know that we make our first impression in the first 33 seconds of meeting someone. In that time, we decide how old you are, what you do for a living, and should I respect you?  So, you want to show effort in being on time, how you present yourself and your work ethic.

Positive Body Language. Create and maintain eye-contact with people. Show that you are really present with them in this moment. Make sure you are looking at them – not at your phone to show that you are not distracted by other things.  You want your body language to show that you care about them and what they are saying.  It’s very important not to slouch and act like you are bored.

Positive Energy & Passion. Make sure that what you say is positive.

Attitude (If there is a problem, there is a solution.) Your attitude determines whether you’re part of the problem or part of the solution. Don’t be a whiner or complainer. Be FOR things not always AGAINST them.

Being Coachable. Be willing to read books, listen to CDs & DVDs, and attend seminars and retreats to continue learning and growing as a person.  Show that you are really into growth and expanding yourself.

Doing extra. This is different for each person but it’s showing up and doing something a little extra, above-and-beyond what is expected.

Being prepared. Do Your Research.  I just had a new coaching client that a company sent over to me yesterday for an hour and a half appointment and she had no clue who I was or why she was sent to me! I would NEVER hire this person.  In fact, if anyone comes to me and doesn’t know anything about me because they didn’t go to milteer.com to find out who I am, I won’t hire them.They aren’t prepared. They know nothing about me and cannot tailor their presentation or discussion.
If you are going to meet important people, look them up on Google. Do some research on them and find something positive about them to talk about so that they know you’ve gone and done a little extra research.

Showing Gratitude & Appreciation. The reason I say that is because the world is so full of an entitlement mentality.  You know, the people that think they deserve everything with no effort or gratitude. It is such a good thing to show people appreciation and gratitude. Tell them that what they’ve done in your life is valued and appreciated.  Get out a card and handwrite a thank you note.  We receive so many texts and emails every day that they don’t hold as much value as writing a handwritten, mailed card does.

These 10 hacks can help you earn respect and people will want to do business with you.

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Until next time,

Keeping it “Real”

Keeping it “Real”

Today I want to talk about something a lot of people are talking about.  It’s the concept of “Keep it real”.


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I’ve had an experience that will make you want to re-think that “Keep it real” thing.  I’ve been interviewing assistants and salespeople in my office at my publishing company in Virginia Beach, Virginia people are coming in dressed very shabbily and very, very casually.  Meanwhile, my office staff and I have dressed up for them and we’ve cleaned the office to make a good impression. We’ve shown some effort.   These interviewees are showing up in yoga pants and sweaters for professional jobs.  I was going to interview a professional sales person and this gentleman showed up in shorts!  When I got to the door and I saw he had shorts on, I instantly had no desire to interview him.  You see, if someone cannot take a little bit of time or put in the effort to show me they respect me, I have NO desire to invest in you, hire you or present you with an opportunity.

So, let’s think about this “Keep it real” phenomenon where people are showing up on webinars with stubble, looking like they just got out of bed and looking disheveled and they don’t want to dress up.  I read this article the other day about wedding dresses and the bride said, “Oh, I didn’t want to look like a tried too hard.”

This new trend of “keeping it real” is not REALLY serving you if you’re a professional, a business person or are looking to work with other people.  Here’s why:  We make our first impressions in the first 30 seconds of meeting you.  In that 30 seconds we decide:

  • How old you are.
  • What you do for a living.
  • How much money you make…. and the KEY decision is:
  • DO I RESPECT YOU?

If we don’t respect people, we will not buy from them, we won’t trust their opinion and they will have no influence on us.

Yes, there is this thing in the business world where it’s appropriate to have a “good enough is good enough” for reports, etc.  To get the work out the door.  I believe in all of those things, but we’re just taking it too far.  Like the concept of casual Fridays becoming casual “every day.”  I’m not saying you have to dress up in a suit every day, you don’t have to be OVERLY dressed.  What I am saying to you is putting out a little bit of effort, energy, and respect for other people is very, very needed.

Not too terribly long ago, I was interviewing someone for my Millionaire Smarts® group on Skype. When my AV guy got him up on the screen, he looked like he had just gotten out of bed!  He looked sleepy, his hair was messy, he was unshaven and wearing a crumpled up t-shirt.  I was mortified!  If it hadn’t been live, I would have pulled the plug on this guy because he did NOT show respect for the people who were taking the time to listen to what he had to say.

So, we’ve heard this for a long time: “Dress for the job/ position you want.”  I never go to an event that I am not “dressed to the nines” for.  I put on nice jewelry, my hair looks nice and I look good because I actually CARE about what people think of me and I want them to know I spent some time, energy and effort to dress up, to look nice and to present myself in a professional way.

Don’t get lured into “Let’s keep it real” because what they are really saying is “Let’s just lower our standards.”  I totally disagree with that!  So, mold this into your own style and personality and what you do, but I will tell you – you probably have a lot of nice clothes rotting in your closet, going out of style just because you’re “keeping it real!”   It’s a trend I am not going to fall into.  That doesn’t mean I dress to the nines for everything I do.  But when it comes to people, clients or anything like that I do put on my best face for them and respect them because you can NEVER change that first impression!

I hope you start to dress up more.  You have nice clothes!  It will improve your confidence and you will feel good.  When you feel good, you’re actually tapping into the right and left sides of your brain which will leave people with a much more powerful memory and impression of who you are.