If you take other people’s words and rejections personally, you are doomed because you have suddenly allowed yourself to become the “victim”. If you let this to happen, then a part of you is saying, “I am not good enough, poor me; I am not intelligent enough; I am not attractive enough; I am not worthy.” These are damaging false beliefs…and they squash your creative energy.
We often judge and punish ourselves for not living up to our own arbitrary standards of perfection. But remember that no one is ever perfect. We must not reject our natural selves or wear social masks to keep others from seeing the real us. If we do, then deep down inside we begin to feel inauthentic and unaccepting of ourselves. We become our own worst enemies and toughest critics. Trying to be perfect is unnatural and destructive to our souls. It goes against the spiritual concept that you are already a perfect child of God.
It takes a great deal of courage to change your beliefs about rejection and perfection. You must accept that thoughts of insufficiency are simply fear-based and that they waste your creative energy and power. Use your internal energy and strength to change those thoughts and the feelings behind them will change. You will reclaim your personal power.
A massive amount of freedom and energy comes to you when you take learn not to take things personally. You become immune to negative people and negative situations and rejection of any kind. Understanding the game of life, you simply go forth and do not let anything bother you.
You know that your connection to God Source is never broken and no one has the power to hurt you unless you let them. Do not give your power away to others—ever! Detach from other people’s world. You live in your own world.
Author Don Miguel Ruiz explains in his book The Four Agreements that it’s selfish for us to take things personally because when we do, we’re assuming that it’s all about “me.” Ruiz says, “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.” He ‘s really saying that taking things personally assumes the other person is privy to what’s going on in our world and at the same time, forces our world on them.
When a situation appears to be very personal to you, in reality it may have nothing to do with you at all. When others offer their opinions, they are coming from their own programming, feelings, beliefs, and views of life.
So to wrap it up today, let me just share with you what I did when I got that “mad at you” letter from my old client. I was wise enough to realize that this was not about me at all but his massive frustration with someone else. Since he could not get a reaction or traction with that person, he went after me to vent his truth. I wrote him back saying I was sorry he felt that way, letting him know that I still cared about him and wished him well. He unfriended me on all social media and I never heard another word from him …until this morning. Today I received the nicest long letter of apology about his ill-aimed anger. I joyfully welcomed him back with open arms because my feelings for him had never changed. I care for him and think he is a special guy. I’m thrilled our relationship is healed. I accepted all his social media requests to be back on my media.
This was all possible because I didn’t take what he said personally. In my heart, I only sent him love and understanding. I knew I would hear from him again when he came back to his senses so I was careful not to burn that bridge. I hope that after hearing my story, you will also be able to see “the bigger picture” if something similar happens to you…no matter how personal it may feel.
Sending you massive love and light. Shine on!!!