How’s your emotional energy management? Our emotions seem to come and go as they will, but they are actually triggered by our thoughts, and we have thousands of thoughts each day. Due to the fact that what we focus on expands, our emotional states follow our thought patterns.
When we get upset, we tend to digress into old childhood patterns, thoughts and fears, and we lose control of our emotional energy. To really be in charge of our emotions, we must control the caliber of information that goes into our minds. We must be selective, because the body will follow the mind.
If you start thinking about mistakes you’ve made, your body reverts to anxiety and feelings of failure, even if the mistake was twenty-five years ago. Your body cannot tell the difference between an imaginary and a real thing. Notice that often, when you’re upset with someone, you become a “reactor” rather than a “responder,” which limits the value of what you offer in a tense situation. A first response based on an emotional reaction will usually get you in trouble and you may say something you will later regret.
Try asking yourself: “What is my second and/or third response to this situation?” A second (or third) response usually comes from a more calm and reasonable place than your highly emotionally charged first response. After all, people may forgive you, but they will not forget.
It’s a good idea to create a twenty-four-hour rule so you don’t respond to insane or angry people immediately. Ask yourself: “Does this need to be answered? Does it need to be answered now? Does it need to be answered by me?” The benefit the twenty-four-hour rule is two-fold: one, so you don’t pick up the insane or angry energy of the other person, and two, so you don’t say something you’ll later regret.
When we’re in a good-feeling state, we’re able to be much more in tune with our goals and desires. We attract situations, people, and events that help us attain the goals we’ve set for ourselves. We have the skill of awareness to see solutions to old problems, and hold lightly any challenges that may cross our paths.
Start paying attention to how you’re feeling on a daily basis. When you catch yourself starting to feel bad, stop and reach for the next best-feeling thought. To find out more be sure to register for my new course 12 Spiritual Solutions For Everyday Problems. The course opens TODAY.